This is my friend Mary
This picture was taken on Christmas morning, 2010. That is LadyBug, our 11 year old beagle, cuddling with her, and Avery – one of our foster dogs – on the couch with her.
Mary comes to our house every Christmas morning – before the boys wake up – so she can share the fun of Christmas morning with them. This year they woke up before she arrived and waited for her before they came down. They love her. She loves them.
We met Mary through our dog rescue before we got custody of our boys. She knew the boys through the rescue because we would bring them with us to the adoption clinics before we got custody of them.
After we got custody of the boys, we decided to raise them in the Catholic faith that both Chip and I were raised in. The first day we all walked into the church, we ran into Mary. We were surprised and happy to see a familiar face. Little did we know that Mary was integrally involved in the church and was beloved by virtually everyone in the church. She started sitting with us every week – with one boy on each side of her and Vash on her lap. When the boys were baptised, Mary was godmother to both Jesse and Vash. Vash keeps her seat warm for her. He lets me sit there sometimes.
Basically from the time we got our boys our weekends always involved Mary. We saw Mary every Saturday at the adoption clinics and every Sunday in church. She just became part of the family and for the boys, another “Mom” resource. They even went on playdates to Mary’s house where they would go on hikes, play on her Wii with her and do craft projects – like the spice shakers hot-glued onto old Hot Wheels and Matchbox cars.
Mary stood with Markus on his first communion as part of his family.
Mary was diagnosed with metastatic cancer in February. It started as colorectal cancer and spread to her liver, lungs, adrenal glands and brain. This week they stopped treatment. On Wednesday she was put under Hospice’s care. She is 54 years old.
Whatever you believe, whoever you pray to, please send your prayers and healing thoughts and white light to our friend Mary – and to my boys who are about to lose someone they truly love and who truly loves them. While Mary understands that death is an inevitable part of life, we can all pray that her passage through to the next phase is one of peacefulness and long in coming.
Tomorrow is Jesse’s first communion. Mary will not be there. She is just too weak right now, so we are going to go see her in the afternoon to share the day with her. She is sending his gift to him with a friend so he will have something with him from her when he is there. We will bring her the blue bunny fur chemo hat. We will smile.
And then come home and cry.
Please pray for her.